Over Thanksgiving weekend of 2016, three-year-old Ireland started to complain of a headache. It got worse and worse until she vomited, and then she felt better. It worried Tori and Robert, her parents, but they decided to just keep an eye on it.
But then, in mid-December, the same symptoms: headache, vomit, relief. When it happened yet again a few days before Christmas, they’d had enough: they took Ireland to the emergency room in Yakima.
“They said she was fine – maybe migraines,” says Tori. “But they did have us follow up with a pediatrician the next week.”
The pediatrician ran through some tests with Ireland, including one where the doctor asked her to close each eye and touch first her nose, and then the doctor’s finger. With her right eye closed, Ireland was perfect. But with her left eye closed, her finger wavered in the air; she couldn’t hit the pediatrician’s finger. The pediatrician referred the family to a neurologist at Seattle Children’s Hospital, and they scheduled an appointment during the first week of 2017.
Over the New Year’s weekend, Ireland’s symptoms worsened rapidly: her left leg started to drag, one side of her face began to droop, and she suffered a seizure on New Year’s Eve. So Robert and Tori decided not to wait for their appointment. Early in the morning on the first day of the year, they put Ireland in the car and drove, through a snowstorm, over the Snoqualmie Pass to Seattle.
“We were just praying that they wouldn’t blow us off or send us home,” says Tori. “Little did we know that an hour after we got there, they would tell us that she had a brain tumor.” At that time, the tumor was about the size of an orange — so large that the doctors were astonished that she was even awake. Ireland had surgery to remove the tumor three days later.
A difficult month
After the surgery, Ireland was still facing a long course of treatment, but there were no rooms available at the Ronald McDonald House. So the family moved from one place to another: first to the Silver Cloud Inn, then the Camlin Hotel, and then finally to the nonprofit Seattle Cancer Care Alliance House. They lived at the SCCA House for three weeks.
“We have one car as a family and Robert’s a student, so he had to go back to Yakima,” says Tori. “My income stopped the day we came here. I had no vehicle here. My best friend and my mom were taking turns coming up here to take us to the hospital.”
“It was an incredibly difficult time,” says Robert. “We were constantly talking about, how are we going to get her to the hospital? And how are we going to cover the expense of this?”
Finally, a room opened up at the Ronald McDonald House in Seattle. Robert and Tori were relieved — though they were a little unsure at first of what they would find.
“When I thought of the Ronald McDonald House, my first thought was that it was literally going to be a big house and we’d have, like, a bedroom,” says Tori. “I thought, gosh, is this going to be clean? Will we have to share a bathroom? But the House turned out to be so much more comfortable and convenient than what I expected.”
Living close to Seattle Children’s solved most of the logistical problems that made the weeks after Ireland’s surgery so difficult. But Tori and Robert were surprised by how much more the House had to offer than just a convenient location. “For us,” says Robert, “one surprising thing was that Ireland has a total blast here.”
More than just a place to stay
At the House, Ireland has become fast friends with several other young girls undergoing treatment for cancer. She’s gone to craft nights and dinners, movie nights and therapy dog visits. She loves baking cookies in the communal kitchen, especially with a staff member that Ireland has nicknamed “Teacher Sarah”.
“I knew they would house us and give us what we needed for her to fight cancer,” says Tori. “But I didn’t know that this would be a place of creativity and joy for her. Being able to watch her experience joy has been a huge blessing.”
For the family, the dinner nights are particularly important. “When we first came here, I tried the grocery route,” says Tori. “I’d go buy salad. And then she’d spike a fever and we would be at the hospital for four days, and we’d get back to our room and the salad would be slimy. So that obviously wasn’t going to work.”
“The dinner nights are amazing. You feel so much love from the people serving the meals. And there are days where I don’t know where I’m going to get the strength from to get through the week, and it’s such a relief to get in the elevator and see that there are meals all week and a movie on the weekend. It’s the only normalcy we get.”
Tori and Robert will be happy to take Ireland back to Yakima, but they’ll be leaving behind a community they never expected to join: volunteers that help them get through the day; kids undergoing the same treatment as Ireland; other parents under the same stresses that they are. The Ronald McDonald House, they say, has become a place where they feel at peace.
“I wish that more people knew that you can do more than just throwing change into a box,” says Tori. “I didn’t know that anyone could give directly to the Ronald McDonald House in their area, and I wish I knew before this how many opportunities there are to serve people through your local Ronald McDonald House.”
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